It was not a great thing to be a woman in Ancient Semitic cultures.  They were regarded as property, regarded as servile and given few rights or privileges. From our modern perspective, many of the teachings of the Law and the Old Testament seem harsh, even oppressive.  But we must remember that in the era in which they were written, many of them were radical, provided a standing to women that they seldom had in the world at large and protecting them from the vagaries of misogynistic or domineering men.  Many laws that today seem repressive were actually given to control men from treating women cruelly or arbitrarily.

There is precious little in the Old Testament about divorce, and what is there may seem to some to favor men.  But the key teaching on the subject is actually given to protect women from the common practices of the day.  We saw, in Genesis 2, God’s perfect purpose for marriage – one man; one woman; one lifetime.  When a man and woman marry, the two become one in God’s eyes.  Divorce is a violent separation of what God has joined together and was not part of God’s original plan.  We looked at the Malachi passage, which is often used as a blanket condemnation of all divorce and saw that God was in fact displeased with Israelites who divorced their wives to marry Canaanite women.  In Ezra, those men were commanded to divorce their Canaanite wives and return to the Hebrew women they had left.  In one instance, at least, divorce was not only permissible, but commanded by God.

Now, we turn our attention to the key Old Testament passage on divorce, Deuteronomy 24:1-4.  It is the only clear Old Testament instruction on divorce, but it serves as the foundation for Jesus’ teachings on the subject of divorce in the gospels.

Deuteronomy 24:1-4

Take a moment to read through the passage.

“When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance.” (Dt 24:1-4)

In reality, this is not a passage about divorce, but about remarriage. It is a prohibition against capricious divorce and remarriage. Men in the day had almost unlimited discretion to divorce their wives and to remarry.  Women had no such right.  Divorce was not a long and drawn out process, but a simple public declaration.  And there was nothing stopping a man from divorcing a woman and remarrying her whenever he felt like it. This game of musical wives could be repeated without any problem, since women existed for the pleasure of men. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 changed all that for the men of Israel.  If a man divorced his wife and she remarries, the man may never again remarry her, even if she is divorced again.  This passage, at its root, is a prohibition against men treating their wives cruelly or capriciously.

While that is the primary teaching, there are several other truths that may be derived from the passage. There are three inferences we can draw from the teachings of this passage. While they are inferences and not clear teachings, they do form the basis of Jesus’ teachings later.

Grounds for Divorce

In these verses, Moses indicates that to divorce his wife a man ought to have some sort o grounds for divorce – a condition that generally did not exist in that culture.  Men did not have an absolute right to divorce, but need to establish a reason, what is called “some indecency.”  He had made a covenant with his wife (and his God) and he was to fulfill that covenant until death.  This would have been a radical imposition in the eyes of men who were used to having it all their own way.

The problem here is what the word “indecency” means in this context, and it is not an easy word to clearly define. The Hebrew word usually means “to expose the genitals” and is often translated “nakedness.”  In Genesis 9:22, Ham found his drunken father and “saw the nakedness of his father.”  There was shame attached to exposing the genitals.  In Genesis 3:7, Adam and Eve realized their nakedness after they had sinned.  Almost every other time the word appears in scriptures, it has this connotation – the shame that derives from exposing the genitals.

There are times, though, when the meaning of the word is clearly metaphorical, and this may be one of them.  It doesn’t seem that Moses would be saying that a marriage is only permitted is a woman were to expose her genitals in public.  Many have assumed that the indecency spoken of here must be sexual immorality or adultery.  This is precisely what Jesus was to teach many years later.  However, it would seem to be a mistake to read Jesus’ later teachings back into this passage.  The problem is that the law had clear penalties for adultery, and divorce was not one of them.  The penalty for either premarital or extramarital immorality was death, a point Moses had just made clearly in Deuteronomy 22:20-22.  Why would he make a capital offense the grounds for divorce?  It seems that something other than sexual immorality must be in view here.

But thus far my studies have not found a completely satisfying definition of the term “some indecency.”  Maybe that is not such a bad thing.  The key here is not to define specifically what the grounds for a divorce was but the fact that some justification for divorce was necessary.  A man could not capriciously divorce his wife because she gained a few pounds or because someone new came along. He must find some moral flaw in his wife’s character that brought shame to him and his family.  Unfortunately, there is nothing more specific here.  Did it refer to a rebellious spirit, a sinful heart, a mean disposition?  We do not know. But we know that men were not given carte blanche to impulsively divorce their wives.

Fortunately, Jesus spelled out the grounds for divorce more clearly in the New Testament, once the death penalty for adultery was no longer a reality.  There are two deductions I would make from this passage.

First, divorce may only be sought for serious moral reasons.  It can never be done lightly or frivolously.  The Shammai and Hillel rabbinic schools argued over the meaning of this phrase in this passage.  The Shammai school took a very narrow view and the Hillel school a very broad view.  Those in the Hillel school maintained that a man could divorce his wife for burning his food.  If there was anything he did not like about his wife; that qualified as “something indecent.”  But it is clear here that a man was required to find serious moral fault in his wife before he could divorce her.  Divorce was a serious act; the breaking of a covenant God intended to be permanent.

Second, this passage in God’s law opens the door to the later teachings of Jesus that there are grounds upon which a divorce is biblically acceptable.  In a sinful world, a gracious God permits divorce in certain situations.  Whatever “some indecency” means, it establishes that there are divinely acceptable reasons to end a marriage.  Jesus said that this law was given permissively, because of human hardheartedness.  Divorce may not have been a part of God’s original ideal, but in a sinful world, he makes allowances, because sinful people do sinful things. Divorce is never desirable, but in certain circumstances it is acceptable.

Process of Divorce

Men were not allowed, under this teaching, to simply send a wife away.  He must give her a certificate of divorce, a document that legally establishes her freedom from the marriage.  He could not simply act in uncontrolled emotion, but must act thoughtfully and legally in the process. There may not be a lot of significance for our modern debate here, but one point is derived from this process that is very significant.

Right to Remarry

Throughout the Bible, the right to remarry is assumed after a biblical divorce.  As death ends a marriage, so does a biblically justified divorce.  When one divorces on biblical grounds, the one who was divorced is free to remarry.

The Mishnah is not scripture, but it gives us insight into the way the Hebrews practiced the teachings of this passage.  The wording of this certificate that was used among the Hebrews is recorded there.   “Let this be from me your writ of divorce and letter of dismissal and deed of liberation; that you may marry whatsoever man you will.”

This establishes an important fact.  A divorce done under biblical grounds and in a proper fashion is the ending of the marriage relationship.  The person properly divorced is free to and expected to remarry.  Divorce is the severing of the marriage relationship and frees the person to remarry.

Summary of Old Testament Teachings

The Old Testament establishes several principles related to divorce and remarriage.  First, God’s ideal was a marriage that united two people as one “as long as they both should live.”  It is still God’s desire today that marriages be permanent and be sources of joy and fulfillment to both parties.  Second, human sin has sometimes made the divine ideal impossible. In view of man’s sinfulness, God gave certain reasonable instances in which divorce was an acceptable alternative to a broken marriage.  Third, God severely limited the rights of men to capriciously or arbitrarily seek divorce.  They needed legitimate grounds for divorce if it was to be acceptable.  Finally, it is clear that remarriage is part and parcel of divorce – it is assumed that those who divorce will remarry.  Divorce did not free someone just to live single, but to seek another spouse.

The Old Testament teachings lay the foundation on which Jesus’ teachings and those of the Apostle Paul are built.  The New Testament expands and clarifies these teachings, but does not negate them.

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Stacy and I have three children.  This story is about two of them, Preston (age 13) and Zach (age 10).  Our kids are what many people call MKs, missionary kids.  Preston has lived just about 3 years in the US in his life, while Zach only has about 2 years in the US.  The rest of the time has been spent in other countries, places with different rules and opportunities.  This is important for our story.

Zach came up to me last week to tell me about something in the parking area behind our apartment.  Now, you have to understand how different my children are.  Preston is the math guy.  Zach is the artist.  Preston analyzes.  Zach has feelings. Preston makes his bed while Zach does not even use a top sheet.  Preston buttons his shirts. Zach just got used to wearing underwear every day in the last two years.  Preston uses judgement to reach conclusions about the best course of action.  Zach says “You know what would be cool?”  Preston’s favorite outfit is his Tennessee Titan shirt and some denim shorts.  Zach’s favorite outfit for years was his skin.

It should come as no surprise, then, that Zach has been to the ER more than 10 times in his 10 years on this earth.  Zach falls off of roof tops.  Tumbles down stairs.  Hits himself in the head trying to copy moves from “Revenge of the Sith.”  Takes off his clothes and runs in the rain across the playground and among the houses on a Baptist seminary campus.

Zach is the one who, upon arriving at our new home last week, promptly climbed the fence, scaled the wall, and stood on the neighbor’s roof.  “Get down from there! That’s not our roof!” prompted him to reply with “But why? There’s nobody up here.” Preston, on the other hand, helped me mow the yard.  On a side note, Emily was in the still-empty house pretending to shop.

In essence, circumstances and situations have given me ample reason to fear Zach’s judgement abilities, and to rely heavily on Preston as the voice of reason when Mommy and Daddy are not around. This, too, is important for our story.

So Zach is telling me about the parking area, and how the 25 foot high walls around it are not perfectly straight. It seems there is a ledge about 10 feet up or so running all the way around the parking area.  ”So, there’s this ledge, ya know?  And that big board down there?  Well, if you put the board against the wall, right on that ledge, you can just walk right up and onto that ledge!  We walked all up and down the wall on that!”

Great.  Kids can barely walk and chew gum without tripping each other.  Now they want to walk on a 12-inch wide ledge 10 feet off the ground.

“Well, that small house down there where that other family lives is right at the same height as the ledge.  I mean, the ledge ends at the edge of their roof top.  Since the roof was flat, we just walked right on top of the roof.”

So I said it.  ”New family rule: NO walking on other people’s houses or roof tops, even with permission.  Zach, you’ve fallen off a roof before, so this goes double for you.”

Then Preston, the voice of reason, chimes in.  “You know the back wall of the property is really high?  And on the other side is, like, another house?  Well the people from that other house put an electric fence on top of their wall!”  Bells begin to ring. Sirens.  In my mind, I can clearly see the triage nurse at Hospital Voz Andes on Calle Villalengua.  She’s saying “Senor Parks? Back again?  Que paso?”

“Well Dad, we touched it.  The fence.”

Did it hurt?  “Well, not at first.  Zach didn’t touch it for long.  I held on the longest, and then something happened and the shock just THREW me off.  I couldn’t have held on any more!  It THREW me, Dad!”

Did anyone fall off the roof?  No.

Was there a sign, one that said something like “DANGER! LITTLE BOYS SHOULD USE THEIR BRAINS AND CLIMB DOWN RIGHT NOW BEFORE THEY DO SOMETHING STUPID”?  Preston again.  “Well, of course there was a sign. That’s why I made Zach touch it first!”

I’m crushed.  This is what I expect from Zach.  But Preston?  Oh, my son….tell me that’s the end.

“Anyway, Zach was finished, but I went ahead and touched it with my forehead.  That really hurt.”  Long pause.  “We got down after that.”

I recovered long enough for my next pronouncement.  “OK…new family rule.  No touching of electric fences, especially while standing on someone else’s roof top.  I should not have to make this sort of rule.  I work too hard to have think of these sorts of rules.  If you were normal kids living in the normalcy of the United States, I’d have to make rules about the new words your friends at school taught you, or about which side of the street is best for skateboarding.  Here?  I get saddled with electric fences and who gets to eat the chicken heart for supper.”  (We actually have to take turns on that last one. Family rule.)

People say to me, “It is so great that your kids have the chance to live in other countries, where they have such unique opportunities!  Isn’t it grand?”  Yeah. Laugh a minute.

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